 By Charlene
Being a member of Shore House, where I can be myself and grow To help with what I don’t know Working together as a group to accomplish a task To not when I need help be afraid to ask Learning to socialize for I have a tendency to isolate I can come out and be part of a process Enhancing skills to be a success Hoping to do better in society Each day is different, with variety Sometimes it is difficult for me to communicate to express But here I don’t have to anyone impress Coming to Shore House gives me much hope Learning from others how to cope To accomplish at least one goal a day Helps me to remain in today Gives me a reason to wake from my sleep eager to begin Anew each day To want to participate to learn another way
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I just finished my first week of cooking school afforded to me from Shore House. I took the class with my fellow member Kerri. The instructor’s name was Dominic. We shopped for all the ingredients for our menu two days before cooking them. Dominic taught us some helpful shopping tips, like not buying whole fish if the eyes are cloudy, and substituting in season produce in our menu planning. We then took a three hour cooking lesson, where I learned to make fresh chili, baked fish and hamburgers. The hamburgers were topped with Swiss cheese, caramelized onions and fire roasted peppers. Kerri and I both got enough food for seven meals each. I shared mine with my mother. She told me it was the best hamburger she ever had. This is why I love being a member at Shore House. We learn to do things for ourselves, and therefore learn to care for ourselves instead of others caring for us. This is the whole philosophy behind the work ordered day. I am so grateful to be part of this unique service for those living with a serious mental illness. There is nothing else like it in the state of New Jersey. I would like to thank the board members and generous donors for making Shore House club possible. Thank you, Sam Ferro.   By Kerri Zeblisky
Sexual assault is the bane of society. Many victims don't come forward, but why? The main reason is that the proof of the case lies with the victim proving that it happened to them. Only 6% of woman (and less for men) report they had been raped or had some sort of sexual activity forced on them. We need to change this. As a survivor of rape I looked into bill 967 that California first passed in the year 2014. Other states want to follow suit. The bill was dubbed the "Yes means Yes" bill. Don't let the name mislead you its good start, here's why: Section 1.1 states as follows: “An affirmation consent stranded in the determination of whether consent was given by both parties to sexual activity.”Affirmative Consent “means affirmation, conscious, and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity. It is the responsibility of each person involved in sexual activity to ensure he or she has the affirmative consent of the other or others to engage in the sexual activity to ensure. Lack of protest or resistance does not mean consent, nor does silence mean consent. Affirmative consent must be ongoing through a sexual activity and can be revoked at any time. The existence of a dating relationship between the persons involved, or the fact of past sexual relations between them, should never be assumed be an indicator of consent." To me this says that if you know, are dating, have dated, or have had sex with the person, you still don't have immediate consent. You have the right to say "No”. Also by not saying anything or not fighting back it does not automatically mean that the person want to have sex. The bill also states that if a person is asleep, otherwise unconscious, under the influence of drugs, alcohol or medication, or just unable to communicate, to do to mental or physical conditions, consent is also not a given. Some people might construe this by saying that if a person isn't really turned on by sexual activity that it can be reported as a rape. In reality false rapes or sexual reports are also reported to authorities. This is a shame as it makes the real accusations seem less credible. This also puts a record on an innocent person that could possibly last a lifetime. In these cases I believe that the accuser should face some sort of punishment for falsifying testimony. I don't see this as the norm, but most people who’ve been raped will not come forward because of the few people that have done that. In conclusion, this bill also states that colleges are responsible for protecting both parties (for the aforementioned reason) by providing privacy and confidentiality. Colleges can lose funding if they don't follow the rules outlined in the law. The student population is supposed to be made aware of what consent is and is not, which brings me to another topic. Which will be explained in part two, so look out for it! |
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