Day four at the Shore house was absolutely amazing I got to meet a lot of new people. I got to meet Dan and the other Abby. I thought it was pretty cool that Dan like the 90’s grunge era of music, so I found someone I have something in common with. He said He like Nirvana and Sound Garden, Alice in chains and Stone Temple pilots which are all my top favorite bands to listen to. He said he saw me in the mall a lot and then saw me on the Shore house Facebook and thought about dropping by today and He introduced himself to me. I also found out about some cool things about John one of member at the Shore house. He told that He loves to listen to music he likes to listen to Matchbox twenty another good 90’s band. He was listing to music as he was going over checklist for the Shore house He wanted to know when I started there. Cause John had not seen my name on last couple of lists I told him that I pencil in my name every day I came in. He told me that computer does goes on by whatever is checked off by the list. Hopefully Shore House will eventually add my name on list because I plan on staying here for a long time. We also talked dreams John talked about how He dreams about He didn’t graduate college. Abby said there might be deeper reason why He is having a dream like that. He said He went through college and that it was really easy for him. Maybe He felt college wasn’t a challenge enough for him is what I was thinking because John is really smart person. John also said that He had dreams where is drinking again and would wake up and feel like thank god I didn’t. I said I have similar dreams like that with smoking because I was addicted to it and feel same sign of relief that I didn’t pick up that cigarette. He said the brain is really powerful organ and it’s like our brain are constantly writing down the same thing over again that what addiction can feel like. We talked some more about dreams I talked about how I had a dream that I was in Japan. But then you wake up realize you are in New Jersey again that’s what Bailey said. I bet she knows that same disappointing feeling that I’ve felt. There’s actually a little bit more to that dream though. I had dreamed that I walked around Japan was looking around all the architecture and visiting all the famous sites around Japan and that I married a woman from Japan. It was the most beautiful dream I ever had. I experienced the most crushing feeling that it was all just a dream Bailey knew how I felt to wake up again in that New Jersey reality. Abby talked about she experienced sleep paralysis and how she would see dead bodies around the room and feel like someone captured her was coming for her. John said that he had similar experiences and that He read a lot about sleeping and would tell himself over and over again that what He was experiencing was not real and that had He helped him with his sleep paralysis. Today I also met with ICMS and EISS to discuss the future of my mental health. I told them many personal things about my mental health. I told them about my depression over the fact that I can’t attract women. They told that I don’t really know if there have been women that are attracted to me. Sometimes people don’t always their feelings out loud because it might make that person feel uncomfortable to and they may want to hide their feelings. They told the media is really to blame for the fact that I feel this way. Our society stigmatizes people who never had relationships before. You see some guy made fun on TV for not being in relationship and all sudden you feel like you don’t want to say that you haven’t. There’s a lot of pressure in our culture to have sex and relationships with people but, at the same time there’s a lot people who don’t have sex and relationships till there a lot older. I told them that it’s gotten me so depressed in the past that I thought about suicide and I would cut myself. I do feel pressure and that is something we need to change in our culture. It’s just like when I was talking with Abby and she said how mental health is stigmatized in our country. People stigmatize things that they are afraid of and don’t understand, but to add that I think people stigmatize things cause people base things off of themselves. People feel like you have to measure up to their standards in order to be considered a person. What I love most about the Shore house, EISS and ICMS is I feel welcomed that it’s okay to be different
by Darren Rose
On my first day at the Shore which is almost a week ago, I remember feeling really nervous and out of place. I worried whether or not I would fit in. I came here on my first day with my therapist Kelly from the EISS program and she drove me to the Shore House. In the car she told me what they were about and she encouraged me to go to this place. Kelly felt that it would help me make lots of friends and that it had good peer support. I was greeted by Faith and Abbie and they were the friendliest people I ever meet and then I would meet Bailey and Susan on my second day there were also really friendly. They were excited about me joining their group. They smiled and showed me around the place they showed me and explained to everything they do for the place. They told me that staff, members and volunteers are all equal and make contributions to Shore house which would be renamed Shore Clubhouse. What I feel Shore house has done for me is give me a higher sense of self-esteem and friendship. I really appreciated when Abbie one of staff said I had a nice face. And how she helped educate me on the all of the Shore house duties. I really appreciate Susan for her generosity like when she bought sub sandwiches for our group and drove us to the Brian’s concerts. She also bought me a coffee when I didn’t have any money and I’m forever grateful. I also like to thank Faith and Bailey for working with me on job duties around the Shore House and for training me in job duties and just being someone to talk too when I felt lonely. I really appreciate Brian being a great driver and, I appreciate his patience when picking me up and how quickly he arrives to my house. I remember when I filling out my application all the Shore house staff walked back in room with me so I wouldn’t feel lonely. The staff that work here are so warm and friendly. I don’t feel so lonely anymore and I feel like I have a purpose and that I have friendship here. I’ve done a lot of different jobs here Abbie always appreciates it that I’m so eager to sign up for everything. She told that the Shore House skills are transferable to other jobs and that Shore House takes a lot pride in having working members in their group. The kinds of jobs I’ve signed up were social media and salad prep. I would write posts on the internet supporting and promoting the Shore House which is such great place to work just like main job Wegmans. I worked putting the lettuce and tomatoes and cucumbers into the salad with Faith as She made grill cheese sandwiches and the sandwiches were absolutely delicious She also showed me that She also likes fried chicken and that’s my favorite thing to eat, and that was what she was having for lunch on my second day at the Shore house. I‘ve worked answering the phones for people calling the Shore house. I remember checking the answering machine with Abbie and thought it was funny when soap lady left a message about giving the shore house soap. I’ve also made calls out to notify the riders about when there pick up time would be. One of Shore House members loved how I want to did everything I can to make the Shore house grow. I want to say a finial thank you to all Shore House staff, volunteers and members for their continued support of me and our program thank you
Exercise and Mental Health
What do bicep curls and walking have in common? These are all forms of exercise. I love to exercise, and this causes me to change up my workouts as I like to incorporate regions of the body. The different regions of the body are chest, triceps, biceps, legs, and back. There are many exercises to do for these parts of the body. Almost every day I exercise, and I can see the benefits and results. Exercise does take work and if you put the work in you can achieve positive results that can have helpful outcomes, especially on the mental health of a person.
One of the benefits in how exercise affects mental health positively is it can improve mood or depression. There are many people in this world that have depression; as it lots of the time is a mystery. Many people are too ashamed to speak up. On average people should get thirty minutes of exercise a day. As simple as brisk walking could help alleviate the pain associated with depression and can most of all improve mood.
by Josh Stein
The game of Ice Hockey has always been a passion of mine. It started as a hobby but after years of playing it turned into passion. I met a lot of friends playing this sport and I learned hard work and dedication from it.
I especially got a lot from the practices, as that made me more skillful. From the goalies, to the defenseman, and to the forwards we all were instructed on the different drills which if done right could make us better. My coach Oktay guided us to be the best player possible and most of all have fun. He was instrumental in helping me learn the game and improve my skill level and I enjoyed every minute of it.
One of the best feelings I got from playing Ice Hockey was the smell of the hockey rink. Just the smell of the cold rink lifted my mind, and I enjoyed everything, especially the camaraderie with my teammates.
Some of the memories, like traveling with my teammates to a game or playing ice hockey with my teammates has instilled character and teamwork in me. I have had my highs and lows of being an ice hockey player but in the end it was not only a lot of fun but a life-long experience.
For almost twenty years ice hockey has been a part of my life and I want to continue this passion into my life story.
Yesterday Project Write Now visited, and we were allowed to randomly pick poems to use as writing prompts. We selected several words that stood out for us, and then wrote a story based on all or some of those words.
This is the poem that I got:
by Mark Strand
Ink runs from the corners of my mouth.
There is no happiness like mine.
I have been eating poetry.
The librarian does not believe what she sees.
Her eyes are sad
and she walks with her hands in her dress.
The poems are gone.
The light is dim.
The dogs are on the basement stairs and coming up.
Their eyeballs roll,
their blond legs burn like brush.
The poor librarian begins to stamp her feet and weep.
She does not understand.
When I get on my knees and lick her hand,
I am a new man.
I snarl at her and bark.
I romp with joy in the bookish dark."
And help raise funds (and awareness) to assist in the prevention of suicide:
Come and participate by volunteering your time, make a donation (if you can) or take part in the three running and walking events held at Rumson Fair Haven High School at 8:30 am on Sunday April 15th 2018.
This is such an important event as no family should ever get the call they hope they never want to get or even worse to find a family member in such a conundrum.
It is was better to counsel the individual in need or crisis then it is to provide grief counselling for a whole family.
Review of Edmund Burke's Reflections on the Revolution in France,
by Theodore Keating
Deepak Chopra recommends in "The Book of Secrets" the following exercise for Acceptance: "I will read about a group that I consider totally intolerant and try to see the world as they do."
Although I think that many changes are necessary in society, I also recognize that any change is an opportunity not only for growth but also for diminishment. On a personal level, singers sometimes talk about losing themselves in a relationship, of losing what they already had, instead of gaining something new. (I also acknowledge that many people think of liberalism as some esoteric club that they haven't been invited to join, even though I don't of it quite like that.) In any context, it is also quite clear to me that it is quite wrong to mar the present in the service of the future (which, when it comes, is always Now).
Of course, there is some negativity here too: I don't like this; I don't like that, and I am right and you are wrong, or France is wrong and Britain is right. Although of course, I don't think that Burke would completely deny that there are also non-revolutionary non-conservatives, something that many people in today's paranoid and dualistic political discourse probably would.
I suppose that both where he is right and wrong, Burke proves the undesirability of turning other people into enemies.
I feel that it would be very beneficial to develop a vaccine for those who travel to foreign countries (whose food safety standards aren't up to par). Those with weakened (or not yet established) immune system such as younger children and older adults are more subject to the effects of food borne illnesses, and could easily perish. If one were to be given a vaccine plus an immunity booster - the vaccine would fight the food borne pathogen itself, and the immune booster would shorten the duration of the illness possibly eliminating the need for a hospital visit or stay, or could even save a life. Even those with not so compromised immune systems could be administered the vaccine along with a regime of immune boosting pills so as to be able to enjoy their vacations without they worry of becoming seriously ill as a result of something they may have consumed. To finish it off, the sale of these vaccines can offset the cost of updating the food safety standards of less developed countries so as to greatly reduce the occurrences of such foodborne illness outbreaks both state side and as well as abroad.
By: Kevin Reilly
I think that it would be a very good idea to save a portion of the sale of all meat products to finance extra manpower in the slaughterhouses. This would significantly reduce the eventual threat of food borne illness outbreaks that result from meat that becomes contaminated by harmful bacteria such as e. Coli or salmonella. Those with compromised immune systems, such as children or older adults, are considered to be most vulnerable and account for most food borne illness fatalities.
This manpower increase can include more inspectors of meat products way before they enter the supermarkets or restaurants. They must also be able to turn a blind eye to anyone who wishes to try to bribe them to accept contaminated meat.
By: Kevin Reilly
If you would like to get into gardening for fun or for profit, you can start by arranging to contact the seed companies. They can send you catalogs in time for you to order your seeds early enough to get them started. You will be just about guaranteed to have a successful season, as nothing is a true guarantee due to weather patterns each year. You can put things in your favor however, so as to counteract (as effectively as possible) any variables. You will then be better prepared when faced with these variables, such as season extending methods, protection from severe weather (where it is more common), and ways to obtain and use water more effectively to prevent over and under-watering. (Both are equally harmful to plant life if not kept in check.)
Below are the general steps with regard to when you are to begin the process of starting your gardening hobby or business:
Blog posts are written by Shore House members and staff.